Ever since I had my second baby my sex drive has been non-existent and now it’s ruining my marriage.

DEAR DEIDRE: ABSOLUTELY nothing turns me on. I love my husband but I do not want sex with him or anyone else.

I am 46 and have struggled with a non-existent sex drive since our second child was born nine years ago.

 Ever since I had my second child, I've not wanted to have sex with my husband or anyone else

Ever since I had my second child, I've not wanted to have sex with my husband or anyone elseCredit: Alamy

My husband is 43 and we have been together for 20 years, but we keep arguing about this.

I have not told anyone about how I feel and it’s very hard for me to even admit it to myself.

I feel like a part of me is dead and do not know how to live with it.

DEIDRE SAYS: How was that birth nine years ago? How was it looking after two young children?

It sounds like a tough experience came on top of an inhibited upbringing – which makes it difficult for you to talk about sex and seek help.

It is understandable if your husband is distressed by this. Please read my e-leaflet How Sex Therapy Can Help.

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