DEAR DEIDRE: ABSOLUTELY nothing turns me on. I love my husband but I do not want sex with him or anyone else.
I am 46 and have struggled with a non-existent sex drive since our second child was born nine years ago.
My husband is 43 and we have been together for 20 years, but we keep arguing about this.
I have not told anyone about how I feel and it’s very hard for me to even admit it to myself.
I feel like a part of me is dead and do not know how to live with it.
DEIDRE SAYS: How was that birth nine years ago? How was it looking after two young children?
It sounds like a tough experience came on top of an inhibited upbringing – which makes it difficult for you to talk about sex and seek help.
It is understandable if your husband is distressed by this. Please read my e-leaflet How Sex Therapy Can Help.
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